Dating can feel like trying to thread a needle in a dark room—every choice counts, and it’s not always easy to see the right path. Today’s story is about a first date that went wrong because of one big issue: being late.
Here’s what happened:
I had a first date lined up with a woman I met on a dating website. We agreed to meet for coffee at 2 p.m. I arrived right on time, feeling excited and a bit nervous. But at 2:10 p.m., my phone buzzed with a text from her. “Are you at the café?” she asked.
I replied, “Yes, I’m here.”
Then she sent back a surprising message: “I’m still at home but I’ll leave soon. I’ll be there in about 20 minutes.”
I couldn’t believe it. It felt like she was waiting to see if I was really there before she bothered to leave her house. I was frustrated. I had taken the chance of showing up on time, and I felt she should do the same. Was I wrong to think that?
I sat there sipping my coffee, watching the clock. By 2:30, I was done waiting. She still wasn’t there, and I was starting to feel disrespected. So, I finished my drink and decided to leave.
At 2:45, I got another text from her asking, “Where are you? I just got here!”
I shot back, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t there as promised.”
That’s when the storm hit. She bombarded me with angry texts, calling me terrible and saying I’d done everything wrong. “You should have let me know you were leaving!” she wrote.
But I couldn’t help but wonder—do women really expect men to wait 45 minutes when they’re late, especially when it feels like the only reason for the delay is to make the guy wait? It felt like a game or a test, and she definitely failed this one.
I’d really like to hear from women about this. Was I wrong to leave when she didn’t show up? Or was it just an unfair situation all around?
