Sarah, a 35-year-old mom, is fiercely protective of her kids and deeply worried about another woman’s actions. She wrote to us, sharing a story that felt like a genuine cry for help.
The situation Sarah described is sensitive for everyone involved. She wants to know what our readers think about her predicament, which includes her children and her ex-husband’s new wife. Here’s her emotional story.
Sarah and her husband, Mike, had a peaceful divorce.
Sarah’s frustration and anxiety were palpable through her letter. She is torn by conflicting thoughts and wants to avoid conflict as much as possible. But with her kids’ safety and well-being at risk, she can’t ignore the problem anymore.
Sarah wonders if our readers will think she’s right in her decisions or if she’s overreacting to something harmless.
She began her letter by saying, “My husband and I were married for 13 years before we divorced 2 years ago. We have two kids, who are 13 and 8 years old now. We split up in a very tolerant and mild way, without any scandals, mutual regrets, or blame.
“Both Mike and I have been doing our best to help our kids come to terms with our divorce. We show them how we both love them and respect each other. We’re really good friends, and everything between us has been perfect so far.”
Mike has a new wife, and Sarah was happy for him.
“Last year, Mike got married again. His new wife, Emma, is a beautiful young woman who really loves him. I found out about their relationship as soon as it started, and I was happy that Mike succeeded in his love life. We don’t have any feelings for each other and there’s no jealousy about us building new relationships with other people.”
Sarah’s main concern was how their kids would get along with new partners.
“Since Mike created a new family before I did, his new wife became the focus of my attention from the moment she met our kids. But I didn’t worry because Emma wanted to be friends with them and seemed to be doing her best to bond with them.
“I didn’t object to their warm relationship. The kids were allowed to go to their place and stay as long as they wanted. They all went on vacations together and spent nice times, which I thought was cool. Everything was fine until one day, I made a shocking discovery about my ex’s new wife.”
It made Sarah mad and anxious.
“Recently, I opened Facebook to check my oldest son’s profile. I found Emma’s page and discovered she’s been posting pictures of my children.
This was more or less fine, but the posts included their full names, pictures of their jerseys revealing where we live, and the worst part is she’s been tagging their locations constantly. All of this was on her very public Facebook page.
“I was raging after I discovered this appalling online behavior. Since then, I’ve asked her multiple times to stop. Emma always says she will, but I check and there are still pictures of my 8-year-old daughter in a swimsuit on her public page.”
Sarah is desperate about the whole situation.
She wrote, “I lost it on her over it. Emma told me I’m being unreasonable, stupid, and that it’s not a big deal. This is actually the ONLY request I have ever made. I asked her not to post my kids.
“The big problem is that Emma doesn’t even filter her friends’ list (she has over 6,000 friends), and her profile is not private in any way.
We are not friends on Facebook (she deleted and blocked me when I asked her to take down the posts with my kids), but since she unblocked me, I can see everything she’s posted (we’re still not friends on Facebook and absolutely everyone can see her content).”
Sarah is desperate about the situation and confessed, “I called Emma recently and asked her not to approach my kids anymore. Mike was furious when he found out that I forbade his wife to communicate with our children, but I feel that I need to protect my kids from Emma’s careless behavior.
“I might be the worst person on Earth for how I reacted — but I don’t feel it was over the line. Mike continues to defend her actions. Am I being unreasonable?
If her page was private or she was truly aware of her friends’ list, I don’t think I would mind it as much. But it’s not, and she clearly doesn’t care who sees what she’s posting.”
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1 thought on “I Want My Ex-Husband’s New Wife to Stay Far Away From Our Kids After I Noticed a Huge Red Flag About Her”
In todays world , unfortunately you are correct to be concerned . My Granddaugter is 18 and my Grandson is 14– that being said, I would never post any information or photos of either of them without asking my daughter first . She has always been very careful about posting her children on the internet and I still respect her concerns . Their Step Mother should have asked for permission before assuming she could just go ahead and post so much —