A 32-year-old woman had been in a relationship with her 39-year-old boyfriend for several months when she began to notice something strange happening every time they went out to eat. After a while, she got fed up and decided to take action.
She had been dating this man, who had two young children, for nine months, and they had a big argument that left her feeling frustrated and confused. The issue? Her boyfriend’s habit of always “forgetting” his wallet whenever they went to a restaurant. This wasn’t just a one-time thing—it had happened over and over again.
Feeling upset and unsure if she was overreacting, the woman turned to Reddit to ask others if she was wrong in her response. She wanted to know if her feelings were justified. The comments flooded in, with many people offering their thoughts on her boyfriend and the situation.
One of her biggest concerns was how her actions had unfolded in front of her boyfriend’s kids. He had called her selfish for not thinking about them, and she was troubled by that. The woman explained that her boyfriend’s kids loved eating out, and they made it a weekly tradition. They would go out to dinner every week, and each time, without fail, he would forget his wallet at home.
At first, it didn’t bother her too much. She didn’t mind covering the bill every now and then. But recently, it was starting to get on her nerves—especially because, over the past month, she had been paying for all of them and it was beginning to drain her finances.
One evening, she had just received her paycheck from a second part-time job and was preparing to go out to dinner again with her boyfriend and his kids. Knowing his habit of “forgetting” his wallet, she sent him a text, reminding him to bring it this time. He laughed it off, thinking she was being a little too cautious.
When they arrived at the restaurant, her boyfriend’s kids ordered a bunch of expensive dishes from the menu. She felt nervous, but she didn’t say anything—yet. Before they began eating, she decided to ask her boyfriend again if he had remembered his wallet, just to be sure.
This time, when she asked, he looked genuinely surprised. He began patting down his pockets, checking every one of them as if searching for hidden treasure. After a moment, he turned to her with a look of embarrassment and said, “I guess I forgot it in the other pair of jeans I thought I was going to wear.”
He then looked at her with a sheepish expression and asked if she could pay for the meal once again. But this time, she had reached her breaking point. Without saying another word, she grabbed her things, stood up, and began to walk out of the restaurant.
Her boyfriend, seeing her leave, rushed after her and asked, “What are you doing?”
She didn’t look back, but as she walked out the door, she firmly told him, “I’m not paying for you and your kids again,” and left the restaurant.
Afterward, her boyfriend called her, furious. He accused her of being selfish for walking out, leaving him and his children hungry. He told her that her behavior was unfair and that she should have paid for them, then discussed it later. But the woman wasn’t backing down. She told him, “I don’t think it’s fair to keep paying for your meals every time we go out.”
Her boyfriend was enraged. He yelled that he had “forgotten” his wallet again and that she didn’t have any sympathy for him or his children. He went on to say that because she had walked out, he had to cancel their food order and take his kids home without dinner.
They argued bitterly over the phone. He told her she needed to rethink how she treated his children and insisted that she had been willing to let them go hungry just because of her own “selfishness.”
Still feeling upset, the woman decided to share her story on Reddit to get other people’s opinions. Many users agreed with her—saying that her boyfriend was clearly taking advantage of her kindness.
So, what do you think? Was the woman right to walk out on her boyfriend and his kids after he “forgot” his wallet for the umpteenth time, or should she have paid for the meal and talked about it later? Would you have handled the situation differently?
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