Standing Up for Love
My wife, Megan, poured her heart and soul into our family’s monthly dinners. She wanted everyone to enjoy the meals she prepared, but instead of thanks and gratitude, all she received were harsh comments from my relatives.
After seeing her in tears too many times, I decided to take action. I set up a secret test to figure out why they were so critical. What I found out broke my heart.
Our family has a long-standing tradition of monthly dinners that started with my grandmother. She wanted to bring her siblings together over delicious food, creating strong bonds among them. My dad and his siblings kept this tradition alive, and I remember those dinners fondly as the best moments of my childhood.
These dinners weren’t just meals—they were big events! My dad would go all out with decorations, making everything festive. My mom made sure there were always at least three main dishes.
I remember one time when Dad even ordered pizza for us kids, turning the night into an unforgettable party. It was always filled with laughter, stories, and love.
Now that my siblings and I are adults, we’ve continued this tradition. A few months ago, my older sister Angela hosted one of these dinners, and her chicken pie was such a hit that even Megan couldn’t stop raving about how delicious it was.
When it’s our turn to host, Megan and I open our home to about 13 or 14 family members, including my two older siblings, Angela and Dan; my two younger siblings, David and Gloria; and sometimes even my Aunt Martha.
Megan was so excited to join this family tradition. She took over the cooking early on because, as she put it, “I find it so therapeutic.”
But the first time we hosted after she took charge, everything went horribly wrong. As soon as Angela took her first bite, she exclaimed, “I knew it! This chicken is so bland!” Dan jumped in with, “Why is it so dry?”
Even my mom added her thoughts: “Maybe use less seasoning next time.” I watched as Megan’s smile faded, her spirit crushed by their harsh words.
I tried to cheer her up. “The chicken is perfect,” I said, hoping to lift her spirits. “What do you think, David?”
David smiled warmly. “It’s really nice. I love it.”
But the damage was done. Later that night, I found Megan sitting on the edge of our bed, tears streaming down her face. “I won’t cook for them again,” she said, her voice shaking. “They hate everything I make.”
I felt terrible for her. I wanted to encourage her, so I convinced Megan to give it another shot at the next dinner. She poured her heart into the meal again, cooking my mom’s favorite roasted chicken and Angela’s beloved red sauce pasta.
She spent hours perfecting the recipes, determined to impress everyone. But when the food hit the table, the same scene unfolded.
“This pasta is awful,” Angela declared, scrunching her nose in disgust. “I’ll send you my recipe,” my mom added, discreetly spitting out a bite of chicken into her napkin. Megan sat in silence, holding back tears until she could escape to the kitchen.
I followed her, my heart aching. “Your cooking is incredible,” I assured her. “I don’t understand why they’re acting like this.”
Megan looked at me, her eyes filled with sadness. “Why do they hate me?” she asked, her voice trembling.
Her words stuck with me. Were they really being this cruel on purpose? I needed to find out. So, I suggested a plan. At our next dinner, we would serve Megan’s food, but I would take credit for it.
Megan was hesitant, scared of more humiliation, but eventually, she agreed. She prepared the same roasted chicken and red sauce pasta again, pouring her heart into every dish. When our guests arrived, I announced with confidence, “I cooked everything tonight.”
The response was incredible. “This is the best pasta I’ve ever had!” Angela said, her eyes lighting up. “I’m glad you’re back in charge,” Dad added, nodding in approval. Even Mom raved, “Now this is how roasted chicken should taste!”
David and Gloria struggled to hide their laughter as our relatives praised every dish. I exchanged a glance with Megan, who gave me a knowing smile. The truth was clear: the same dishes they had criticized when they thought Megan cooked them were now being called perfection.
I couldn’t stay silent any longer. “So, you all loved the food, right?” I asked, a hint of challenge in my voice.
They nodded enthusiastically.
“Well, Megan made everything,” I revealed, my voice strong. “The same dishes you’ve been criticizing for months.”
The room fell silent. My mom’s face turned bright red, and Angela suddenly found her drink very interesting. My dad tried to save face. “Well, maybe her cooking has improved,” he muttered, but it was too late.
That night, Megan and I decided to stop hosting the dinners. “You deserve better than this,” I told her firmly. “I’m done with their toxic behavior.”
Megan hesitated, her brow furrowed. “But it’s your family’s tradition. You should still go.”
“I don’t care about traditions anymore,” I said, my voice steady. “They disrespected you, and I won’t tolerate that.”
We skipped the next few dinners, and soon my family began to notice. When my mom called to ask why, I told her the truth. “You’ve been cruel to Megan for no reason. We’re not coming back.”
“Brandon, you’re ruining your relationship with us because of her!” my mom yelled, her voice filled with anger.
“I’m standing by my wife,” I said firmly. “If you can’t respect her, you don’t respect me.”
Later, my sister Gloria confirmed what I had suspected. “Mom and Angela never approved of Megan,” she admitted quietly. “They think she’s too different and not ‘family enough.’”
Gloria’s words solidified my decision. Megan deserved love and appreciation, not judgment and ridicule. From that moment on, we focused on creating our own traditions—ones filled with kindness and mutual respect.
In the end, I realized that what truly matters isn’t keeping up appearances or clinging to old customs. It’s about standing up for the people you love and building a life where everyone at the table feels valued and cherished.
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