A woman struggling with her five-year relationship turned to the online community for help after a huge argument with her fiancé. The fight started over money, and now she’s questioning their relationship.
In a heartfelt post on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A*e’ thread, she shared her story.
“I’m 32 and my fiancé is 35. We’ve been together for five years and got engaged recently. We’re planning our wedding for May 2025,” she wrote. “But shortly after we got engaged, my grandmother passed away.”
Her grandparents had been very successful and left her a significant amount of money. This is where things took a turn.
“When I heard the news, I told my fiancé and he was incredibly overjoyed, much more than I expected him to be. I went along with it and shrugged it off until later in the day I heard him on the game with his mates saying ‘I can pay my credit card off with that money, mate! We can finally get that boys holiday we’ve been planning, ay?’ and laughing,” she wrote.
She continued, “I walked into the room and asked ‘What money?’ and he immediately looked at me funny and said ‘From your nan, babe.’”
She said she “immediately exploded on him” and told him he wouldn’t be paying anything off without her permission, and that he definitely would not be using the money to pay for a boys’ holiday.
“‘It’s not your money to have, it’s written to me from MY nanna, it’s not for you,’” she told her fiancé.
This led to a shouting match. She left the room upset, and later, her fiancé came out to the kitchen to scold her, saying, “We are getting married, you will become my financial BURDEN. Any money you take in is mine also. It was incredibly selfish of you to make such a fool out of me in front of my friends and giving them false hope of a holiday.”
She then wrote that she left the house without saying a word and went to stay at her friend’s place. She concluded by asking if she was being an a*e.
After her post, she received a lot of support and advice from people online.
“Ok so he has shown you that he thinks of you as a burden and is planning on spending money that isn’t actually his on his ‘boys’. And he’s screaming at you because you won’t fall in with his plans. You’re nuts if you actually marry him,” one person wrote.
Another added, “You really want to marry this guy? There are 2 problems: 1. He assumed he’s entitled to the money. 2. He assumed he can spend it on a discretionary item that does not include you. Pt2. is the bigger problem.”
Another user said, “Stop the wedding. Do not marry this guy. First, … wow he’s got credit card debt he’s never paid off? Living beyond his means is a HABIT. Second… what’s his is his, and what’s yours is his? Oh honey NO. Third… the rage? entitlement and DARVO … projecting you would be ‘the burden’ on him in the relationship? this man exhibits all the classic Narcissist tells.”
They continued, “Your grandparents’ last gift to you wasn’t just the money, but the wisdom of who this guy really is underneath. No character, abusive, entitled, parasitic. Run.”
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He’s selfish to assume he can use your inherent. It was left to you! Not! Him! Dump him and I mean Now!