On Reddit, a woman shared a story that caught a lot of attention. She talked about how her fiancé teased her for making more money than he did and expected her to pay for meals—not just for herself, but also for him and his friends.
After she got a 30% raise, she said, “My fiancé (37) and I got engaged five months ago. We usually avoid talking about money because he doesn’t like it. But ever since my pay went up, he’s been using that to justify why I should pay for him and his friends. Whenever I question it, he just says, ‘the 30%—that’s why,’ making it seem like I didn’t earn that raise or that it’s unfair.”
Before they left for dinner one evening, she made it clear: “I won’t be paying this time.” He had tricked her into covering the bills before, often asking her in front of his friends. Being polite, she would just smile and pay to avoid any conflict, especially in public.
Last Tuesday, when he invited her to dinner with his friends, she told him right away, “I will not be paying for their meals.” He seemed okay with it, saying, “Got this, no worries.”
But during dinner, he leaned in and whispered, “You’re going to pay again.” She quietly replied, “No.” She felt like he was counting on her to stay quiet in front of his friends. Then he said, “You have enough money to pay for everyone’s food.” That was it—her anger boiled over.
After she paid her own bill, she decided to leave. “I kept my cool instead of reacting angrily. After our orders were taken and the bills were divided, I paid for mine, excused myself to the bathroom, then slipped out and drove home.”
Later, her fiancé started calling and texting, asking where she was. She texted back, explaining how upset she was that he had put her in that position and had tricked her into paying for his and his friends’ meals. After she told him she was going home, she stopped replying.
An hour later, he showed up at her place, furious. He yelled at her, calling her selfish, irrational, a cheapskate, and childish for sneaking out and leaving him with a bill he couldn’t pay. “He had to call his brother for help!” she added, recalling their argument. After a heated exchange, he stormed out.
His friends didn’t know what to say to her, but he mentioned they were disappointed in her actions and suggested he rethink the kind of woman he wanted to marry.
In that moment, she felt a mix of emotions—anger, sadness, and confusion. Was it time to reconsider their relationship?